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Alliance for Women’s Sexual Safety

Recently, a group of high school classmates who attended an all girls high school began communicating through Facebook. We love catching up on our lives, as well as all the juicy, helpful tidbits of information we have to share with each other. However, we decided our privacy on Facebook  might not be as well protected as we’d like for some topics of concern, and quite organically, from all around the United States a cluster of us began communicating via private email.

A thread evolved, loosely titled “Coming Out Stories” in which classmates began to share the physical and emotional trauma caiused by sexual violence they have experienced over the years.  The statistics of how many women in our small group had endured and suffered some form of sexual violence were mind-boggling. More than survivors, these women have moved on, with many become dynamic leaders  and mentors in their chosen professions.

A group of intelligent, resilient, resourceful, wise and compassionate women who are committed to protecting other women and children  from this kind of life-altering trauma, we asked ourselves what can we do?

This page is my contribution. Any woman who has experienced sexual violence can comment on this page, tell her story, and have her anonymity protected as I moderate all comments coming into the Living Lessons Blog. And I am inviting all the men out there who are sensitive to this subject, whose grandmothers, mothers, sisters, wives, and daughters have been on the receiving end of a sexually expressed hate crime to join in the conversation.

Tell us your strories. Share your reactions and feelings. Make us aware of organizations around the country and the world who are allied in preventing sexual violence against women, and who would like to be part of a grass roots support, education and advocacy 24/7 blog page.

If you’re a woman who has PSTD  from sexual violence in your life, or who is fortunate enough to be working with an outstanding therapist or support setting, let us know who helpd you and how to contact them so we may broaden our circle of effective action.

I can think of fewer more valuable living lessons than the lesson of  changing the consciousness of what one woman in our group labeled a “rape culture.”  This is a change in consciousness we can effect at a grassroots level as surely as we have been able to use the grassroots lightening strikes of education, dialogue, outreach, and one-on-one conversation — all happening globally 24/7 using the technology of Facebook and other social networking — to elect our new American president.

Communications technology makes it possible for us to reach out to each other wherever we are, and to reach back toward one another with a commitment to forming a grassroots, global alliance of caring for women and children’s sexual safety — wherever we are.

We are all deeply concerned about the global monetary crisis, we are concerned about the planetary environmental crisis, we are concerned about health care. I ask you to consider the possibility that these crises  have their roots deeply embedded in a global acceptance of a rape culture as the natural order of things, and that sexual violence and dominance play a role in any sanctioned form of economic, social or environmental injustice beyond the horrific damage done to any one woman or child. Can it be otherwise?

The sooner men get this living lesson, the sooner we will redirect our attention to a creative shift in consciousness where love and respect for women’s sexuality is mirrored in our judicial, economic, foreign, domestic, health care and environmental policy. And the sooner, we will set up the circumstances for experiencing another major transformation from the way things have just always been to the way we decide they have better yet to come.

I can’t wait to hear your stories!


  Dina wrote @

Thank you for providing this blog for people to speak out regarding any abuse issues they might need to sound off about and to reach out for assistance .


  Tito wrote @

Hey Anaiis, A good friend of mine, Sylvia Coleman, recently self-published her book, “Creating A New Normal” Cleaning Up A Dysfunctional Life. She journals her own sexual abuse stories by how she was molested by two family members. She discusses how it affected her life into adulthood/womanhood. More importantly how she found help to overcome her “dysfuctional” life. By doing so she has dedicated her life to helping others overcome and to bring awareness of this epidemic. She now facilitatates workshops, classes and is a speaker to bring awareness to sexual abuse victims that they are not alone. Her website is Very good information. Peace! Hugs to the Family!See you soon!

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